TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Loss and Grief: Cry.  Cry as much as you want.  Even if you have to use an IV drip to stay hydrated.

Don't isolate: When we isolate we ruminate about all of the things that went wrong and we completely ignore all the wonderful and amazing things we did, shared and experienced.

When we are treated poorly: Why does that person think that they can get away with talking that way to us!  Don't allow this.  Withdraw.  Engage in caring dialogue.  Whatever. But don't allow yourself to be treated that way.

Interpersonal Boundaries: Read this.

Go dancing: It helps get us out of our head.  

You're an Artist: Do what you like and need to do.  Writers need to write.  Artists need to do art.  You have talent, even if nobody else knows it.

Do something physical.  Our body is connected to our moods.  Go for a walk.  Ride a bike.  Get the blood flowing.  

Call acquaintances and friends: Suggest having coffee.  A short get together.  Catch up on what is happening with each other.  (Do this a few times every week).

Go to bed just because it is comfortable: Indulge yourself.  You don't need an excuse.  `

`Work' is not the same as a `Job':  Some of us like to get our hands dirty.  Gardening.  Volunteering.  Woodworking.  

Take credit: If you have a pet think about how you loved that pet and what joy and pleasure you brought to that pet.  Same goes for your partner.

See a Therapist: Be picky about it.  Someone you click with.  Or, find a crowded closet, close the door and talk.  Say anything you want.  Answer yourself, even.  

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